Moe Hunter Ask Moe: Is He Just In It For Sex?

How do you know when the guy is just with you for sex? he sends mixed signals that always end in come over for sex? is he a loser?

Question submitted by parentingonmyown

I’m no romantic. I don’t buy flowers, I don’t bake cookies, and I’m not a shout-on-top-of-a-building-how-much-I-love-you sort of guy. Quite the contrary. I wonder if the stereotype of all men being gentlemen is giving the wrong impression. In a sense, I’m relieved that women are beginning to be more accepting of the boyfriend who is a lazy degenerate, but I know that as long as Coldplay is around, we’re all going to be compared to the “perfect” man, and will eventually let our girlfriend’s down when we don’t come home with flowers every day.

But yesterday, I saw something that gave me hope.

I was walking downtown, and I saw a homeless guy making out with a homeless girl. It was the wettest, wildest, gummiest, nastiest, hottest thing you’ll never forget.

It was inspiring.

It gave me hope, that somewhere, deep down in a woman’s psyche, they can accept a man for who he is, and not for who they want him to be.

  • Men aren’t going to provide the transcendental sort of love that you read about in Cosmopolitan Magazine.
  • Men aren’t going to know the Kama Sutra off by heart.
  • Men aren’t going to look like David Beckham.

However, men will be there for you when you need them, and aren’t as bad as Rihanna will lead you to believe.

You say “he sends mixed signals that always end with come over in sex.”

That’s not a bad thing.

  1. You’re getting banged.
  2. There is no number 2.

Maybe you just need to be happy with what you have, and then you’ll learn to appreciate him more.

Maybe you need to realize that he would love to do more for you, and wants to make you the happiest girl in the world but when you constantly harass me to do something special like remember your anniversary and buy you presents it really pisses me off and I wish you would give me a little space so I don’t feel like I’m in a corner and the only way out is to break up with you and I hate you and I can do so much better why don’t you just leave me alone the sex isn’t even that great stop trying to be my wife.


Let me illustrate what’s happening with a story.

I once had a dog that used to yell and scream for attention and would run to the front door every time I opened it, and would always want to go on a walk.

I started resenting this dog because it was too needy and needed constant reassurance and validation from me.

Then it died, and I got another dog.

This dog was needy for like the first week, then was stoic and distant.

I spent month after month trying to get ITS attention, and would do anything for it. I even bought it a winter coat.

The guy is not “a loser.”

He’s just a guy that’s having a hard time putting up with girls that call guys “losers” for not being Mr. Right.

When you stop seeking validation, you will turn into Dog #2 and he will start liking you more for not being a deadweight clingy parasitical leech of a girlfriend.

Good luck!

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